|Got it? Now let me tell you why.|
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As an NFP teacher in training, I thought I’d try to tackle a tricky subject. Why does the Catholic Church teach that sex outside of marriage is wrong?
Let me preface this by saying that I think it’s the wrong question to ask. Rather, we should ask, why is the Catholic view of sexuality so right?
It is right because it allows sex to be used for what it was meant to be used for, and doesn’t settle for anything besides that.
The world settles for less.
The world says “less is best.”
The world says, “I give up – I give in. My emotions win.”
But the Church says “Um, no, the best is the best, and never settle for less.’
The two questions posed above are intertwined, but I think a little diving in would do some good. Here goes: three reasons why sex outside of marriage is sinful precisely because it is so lacking:
|Clearly, Boromir, you're not in a Catholic marriage.|
But on the flip side, anything less than using the gift of sex as it was intended is denying God's gift - and denying God and His gifts is a very serious issue. Here we are, given the gift of entering into the love of the Trinity, the love and creative power of God himself – but we say, “Nah, I’m good”? What a poverty that is to turn our backs on so great a gift of love for a few seconds of pleasure.
|Sacraments: Ya can't have one flesh without the other....|
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Using that Sacrament in a way that is outside of its purpose is a desecration of the Sacrament - just like taking a consecrated Host, the "one body of Jesus," and not using it for its intended purpose, in its intended setting. When the matter of the sacrament is used to profane, that is called sacrilege. The matter in marriage is our bodies. So when we use our bodies in a sexual way outside of marriage’s design, we participate in an anti-sacrament - a sacrilege.
|Big Truth. Little Package.|
Likewise, the form of the Sacrament of Marriage signifies a greater Truth of participating in God's power. God literally gives humans the power to create new, eternal life. By exchanging mutual, total, and completely free gifts of themselves (just as in the Trinity), a married couple can participate in God's power of creation. But, separated from its purpose, what happens?
When the Eucharist is received by someone closed to the gift, then that receiver eats and drinks judgment upon himself (1 Corinthians 11:29). Likewise, when marriage is used in such a way that the receivers of the sacrament are not open to its power, then they close themselves off to the graces and the life of God. Being closed off to God is what we call 'sin.'
Catholics say "No!" because they're not settling for anything but the best sex possible.
|You know you want it.|
I’m reading Christopher West’s The Theology of the Body for Beginners again. I read it before, and it’s awesome, but it’s been a few years.
Reading it, I realize how much of a beginner I still am. It’s a great read, and I highly recommend it. I'll be posting more as I get deeper into it.